Being the Right Partner...

So we’ve talked about ways to get your needs met. What about meeting your partner’s needs?  The book “Fighting for your Marriage” by Scott M. Stanley, Susan L. Blumberg Howard J. Markman, states “A great marriage is predicted not so much by your finding the right partner as by your being the right partner.” I was thinking about this quote and how often times we focused on what our partners do or what we want them not to do. It is important for us to shift our focus to what we can control, ourselves. This isn’t an easy think to do but this is the start to change, hopefully toward positive change. When we are able to focus on ourselves and what we are able to control; we can begin to change how we interact, approach, and react to our partners. How often do we think about what we do for our partners? It is important that we do positive things for our partners and in turn this is doing something positive for our relationship. I am not saying that this gesture has to be something huge, small gestures make a difference. Do what you feel comfortable with and if that means start small then start small.

Also, it is important to take care of ourselves. When we are able to take care of ourselves, it may be a bit easier to give to our partners and to focus on being the right partner.