We are all looking for a healthy, satisfying relationship. Intimacy is an integral part to building a strong foundation in your relationship. Achieving a strong sense of intimacy with your partner can be difficult. What makes it so difficult? Men and women view intimacy differently. We all have different definitions of what intimacy means. But studies show that, on average, women tend to be more emotional. While this may seem like just a stereotype, many studies have shown that women express more emotion and are more in touch with their emotions when compared to men. Women tend to want to talk, listen, communicate, and express emotions as a way of feeling connected. On the other side of the coin, men tend to want to engage in shared activities to bond with others. We see this difference early on: in little girls we see that they spend much of their social time talking with others and boys prefer to engage in recreational activities.
So how does this information help us create more intimacy in our relationships? First, the knowledge of how we are different will hopefully help us to understand and relate to our partner better. With this knowledge, we can stop taking what our partner is doing personally. They are not doing it to bother us or on purpose, but because our partner is different from us. Now that we know that we need different things from our partners to feel intimate, we can start to find new ways that we can feel connected to our partner. It’s important to talk to our partners in order to find some compromise so both you and your partner are able to feel high levels of intimacy. For example, going for a walk with your partner - this allows you to be doing something active, but you are also able to talk to your partner. It is important to find what works for you and your partner and go with it. Enjoy each other!
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