Whenever holidays come around, we build up expectations of what it will be like, how we will feel, and what will happen. This is natural; many of us do this, but it can also leave us feeling disappointed. This disappointment can turn into anger and resentment, which leads us to push our partners away. In the long run this doesn’t really help us get what we are looking for. What we are typically looking for is love and connection.
This is a common reactionary pattern to a variety of interactions that occur in relationships. But how do we let our guards down and put ourselves out there by telling our partners what we are looking for? The fear of rejection and embarrassment can be enough for us to not be vulnerable. However, if we don’t put ourselves out there, what happens? How do we find that connection?
Sometimes being in love and in a relationship requires us to take risks and leaps of faith. It can be as easy (or as hard) as saying, “Honey, I would love to have dinner just the two of us with no interruptions.” But how can something seemingly so innocent be so hard? Our fears and our past make it hard. Maybe you have been rejected in the past and the fear of that happening again is too overwhelming. Feeling safe and trusting your partner are essential in establishing a strong foundation for your relationship. Once you begin to be more vulnerable and it is successful it will only make your connection and your relationship stronger. Tomorrow we’ll discuss more about the topic of vulnerability.
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