What does it mean to be vulnerable? Definitions of vulnerability range from “capable of being physically hurt or damaged” to “open to attack or damage.” Not too comforting. Yet, the importance of being vulnerable is frequently mentioned in therapy. Considering today’s topic, how do you know when you’re being vulnerable? Moreover, why would anyone WANT to be vulnerable?
It is important that there is an aspect of safety in your relationship.* It is not appropriate in all relationships, especially hostile or volatile relationships, to put oneself out there.
Being vulnerable in the therapeutic sense means going outside your comfort zone. In terms of a relationship, it means being able to ask your partner for what you need. For example: you’ve had a really hard day at work and are looking for reassurance and comfort from your partner. It is important to remember that our partners are not mind readers, and there will be times that we need to give them a little extra information. When we are able to express our needs, it is much more likely that our needs will be met.
Vulnerability allows you to open the lines of communication with your partner. When you’re able to clearly and concretely communicate your needs to your partner, it gives your partner a better opportunity to meet them. If that does not happen, a conversation about compromise can occur. This will likely increase intimacy and greater sense of satisfaction in your relationship.
*If you are experiencing domestic violence in your relationship or feel unsafe in your relationship, please consider these resources:
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